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Thursday, December 24, 2009
Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I am looking forward to 2010. My goal will be to focus on giving more...In any way that I can. It's much easier to stick with rather than trying to lose weight... lol...
Achieve your dreams: Six steps to accomplish your goals and resolutions. Don't let your goals and resolutions fall by the wayside. Chances are that to achieve your dreams and live a life you love, those goals and resolutions are crucial. Goal setting and goal achievement are easier if you follow these six steps for effective and successful goal setting and resolution accomplishment . They must be in writing.
1) You need to deeply desire the goal or resolution. The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.
So, your first step in goal setting and achieving your dreams is that you've got to really, really want to achieve the goal!
2) Visualize yourself achieving the goal. Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. What will your achievement feel like? How will your life unfold differently as a result? Keep a picture of the item where you see and are reminded of it everyday. If you can't picture yourself achieving the goal, chances are...You won't!
3) Make a plan for the path you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Create action steps to follow. Identify the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. You have to make sure that the blueprint is really what you want and that you've thought everything through. Begin every day with the end results in mind.
4) Commit to achieving the goal by writing down the goal. Lee Iacocca said "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen". Write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path.
Writing down the goal, the plan and the time-line, sets events in motion.
5) Establish times for checking your progress in your calendar system. Day planner, hand written list, Outlook...If you're not making progress, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Just know that something is and probably will go wrong. Take a look at all the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan.
6) Review your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. Analyze where the goal is not being met.. Don't allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior 5 steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you want to achieve the goal!
I'm discussing a little tonight about people with selective hearing. I'm sure we all know someone that this applies to. Shoot, I've even been accused of it.
I am comfortable talking about this here because the person I will be referring to, does not even know about this blog.
I have a dear friend that I care about. And I am glad to call her my friend. But, aside from all the gossiping she does, I've noticed that she does not really pay attention when people talk to her. I'd guess you say, she tunes in and out. She even admits that she does this.
I get a phone call from her last night that she was discussing me and my kids with a member of the family. Somehow she is on this Christmas kick and began discussing how my sons father needs to do more at Christmas for these kids and not worry about other families.
Whoa! I stopped her right there. Throughout this whole blog, I have always said and will continue to say how there is no better father that my sons father. And the way he takes to my little girl is such a blessing as well. All the years that I have been blogging, I have never said anything negative about his being a dad. He does more than alot of other dads.
So I stopped her right there. She brought up a toy that my little girl received, where I made a funny comment about it and she took what I said and twisted it to be negative and then told the family member about this.
Which, by the way... All of this is being told to my sons father!
She then continues to tell me how she also mentioned a couple good comments... Like how my sons father is still the love of my life... Another WHOA!!!!
I stop her immediately and ask her why she would say that... She said that was what she heard me say in the past.. I had to point out to her that what I said was "I have only been in love once, and that was with my sons father".... I never said he is the love of my life. Sure, I care about him and don't want anything bad to happen to him... But he is not the love of my life! There is a difference.
She also begins to tell me that she did mention something nice that I said...I'm sitting on the edge of my seat, listening. She mentioned how I sad that the girlfriend is good for my sons father... That she does seem to make him happy.
Now, how can she get that part right and everything else messed up? She called me up telling me that this family member went ahead and told my sons father all about the things I "said"...(Which I did not say). And that she wanted to give me heads up about it. She also seemed upset that the family member took what she told him and went to my sons father with it.
I really do believe that after all this time, my sons father knows where my heart is....That I would not say those type of negative things. But I am also worried that the girlfriend would hear this crap and think that I still want to make moves on my ex.... Which I don't. I don't want her feeling like I am a threat. Which, I'm not.
I explained to this friend that she needs to really listen when people talk to her....Not be selective and pick what she thinks she hears...And she even admitted that she does do that. She apologized to me and said she did not know what to do about it... I told her that if this created issues between me and any of the family, then we would have a problem. I told her that it has taken me way too long to get to this point. To where I can even talk with my sons father again...And that by her giving "Wrong" info could jeopardize the point of where we are. I don't know about anyone else, but I like knowing that I get along ok with my ex....That we wish each other only good. It took a long time to build that up from where we came from.
Not sure what to do.... Or how to feel. How can someone take casual conversation and turn it into negative comments? I even told her recently how my ex fixed the exhaust on my van for me... She turned around and told me that she thought my friend did it. More proof that she does not really listen.
And the thing is, I don't volunteer info freely. So if I do, I would hope the person listening would get what I said correctly.
Now it's going to be up to me to approach my ex and his girlfriend and let them know what I heard and explain what I did not say and what I did say! I so hate having to explain myself... Or feel like I am defending myself.
The funny thing is, I went all out this year and made a gift basket up for my ex and his girlfriend for Christmas... From the kids. And I did that a couple weeks ago. Not sure I should give it since it may look like guilt on my part...And I did and said nothing wrong to feel guilty about.
Well, it's been a long time since I have done any venting like this... lol...Thanks for listening and trying to follow along...I hope you guys have a great night.