Thursday, December 24, 2009

Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I am looking forward to 2010. My goal will be to focus on giving more...In any way that I can. It's much easier to stick with rather than trying to lose weight... lol...

Happy Holidays!!!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Six steps to accomplish your goals and resolutions

Achieve your dreams: Six steps to accomplish your goals and resolutions. Don't let your goals and resolutions fall by the wayside. Chances are that to achieve your dreams and live a life you love, those goals and resolutions are crucial. Goal setting and goal achievement are easier if you follow these six steps for effective and successful goal setting and resolution accomplishment . They must be in writing.

1) You need to deeply desire the goal or resolution. The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.

So, your first step in goal setting and achieving your dreams is that you've got to really, really want to achieve the goal!

2) Visualize yourself achieving the goal. Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. What will your achievement feel like? How will your life unfold differently as a result? Keep a picture of the item where you see and are reminded of it everyday. If you can't picture yourself achieving the goal, chances are...You won't!

3) Make a plan for the path you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Create action steps to follow. Identify the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. You have to make sure that the blueprint is really what you want and that you've thought everything through. Begin every day with the end results in mind.

4) Commit to achieving the goal by writing down the goal. Lee Iacocca said "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen". Write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path.

Writing down the goal, the plan and the time-line, sets events in motion.

5) Establish times for checking your progress in your calendar system. Day planner, hand written list, Outlook...If you're not making progress, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Just know that something is and probably will go wrong. Take a look at all the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan.

6) Review your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. Analyze where the goal is not being met.. Don't allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior 5 steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you want to achieve the goal!

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Thursday, December 3, 2009

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Selective Hearing

I'm discussing a little tonight about people with selective hearing. I'm sure we all know someone that this applies to. Shoot, I've even been accused of it.

I am comfortable talking about this here because the person I will be referring to, does not even know about this blog.

I have a dear friend that I care about. And I am glad to call her my friend. But, aside from all the gossiping she does, I've noticed that she does not really pay attention when people talk to her.
I'd guess you say, she tunes in and out. She even admits that she does this.

I get a phone call from her last night that she was discussing me and my kids with a member of the family. Somehow she is on this Christmas kick and began discussing how my sons father needs to do more at Christmas for these kids and not worry about other families.

Whoa! I stopped her right there. Throughout this whole blog, I have always said and will continue to say how there is no better father that my sons father. And the way he takes to my little girl is such a blessing as well. All the years that I have been blogging, I have never said anything negative about his being a dad. He does more than alot of other dads.

So I stopped her right there. She brought up a toy that my little girl received, where I made a funny comment about it and she took what I said and twisted it to be negative and then told the family member about this.

Which, by the way... All of this is being told to my sons father!

She then continues to tell me how she also mentioned a couple good comments... Like how my sons father is still the love of my life... Another WHOA!!!!

I stop her immediately and ask her why she would say that... She said that was what she heard me say in the past.. I had to point out to her that what I said was "I have only been in love once, and that was with my sons father".... I never said he is the love of my life. Sure, I care about him and don't want anything bad to happen to him... But he is not the love of my life! There is a difference.

She also begins to tell me that she did mention something nice that I said...I'm sitting on the edge of my seat, listening. She mentioned how I sad that the girlfriend is good for my sons father... That she does seem to make him happy.

Now, how can she get that part right and everything else messed up? She called me up telling me that this family member went ahead and told my sons father all about the things I "said"...(Which I did not say). And that she wanted to give me heads up about it. She also seemed upset that the family member took what she told him and went to my sons father with it.

I really do believe that after all this time, my sons father knows where my heart is....That I would not say those type of negative things. But I am also worried that the girlfriend would hear this crap and think that I still want to make moves on my ex.... Which I don't. I don't want her feeling like I am a threat. Which, I'm not.

I explained to this friend that she needs to really listen when people talk to her....Not be selective and pick what she thinks she hears...And she even admitted that she does do that. She apologized to me and said she did not know what to do about it... I told her that if this created issues between me and any of the family, then we would have a problem. I told her that it has taken me way too long to get to this point. To where I can even talk with my sons father again...And that by her giving "Wrong" info could jeopardize the point of where we are. I don't know about anyone else, but I like knowing that I get along ok with my ex....That we wish each other only good. It took a long time to build that up from where we came from.

Not sure what to do.... Or how to feel. How can someone take casual conversation and turn it into
negative comments? I even told her recently how my ex fixed the exhaust on my van for me...
She turned around and told me that she thought my friend did it. More proof that she does not really listen.

And the thing is, I don't volunteer info freely. So if I do, I would hope the person listening would get what I said correctly.

Now it's going to be up to me to approach my ex and his girlfriend and let them know what I heard and explain what I did not say and what I did say! I so hate having to explain myself... Or feel like I am defending myself.

The funny thing is, I went all out this year and made a gift basket up for my ex and his girlfriend for Christmas... From the kids. And I did that a couple weeks ago. Not sure I should give it since it may look like guilt on my part...And I did and said nothing wrong to feel guilty about.

Well, it's been a long time since I have done any venting like this... lol...Thanks for listening and trying to follow along...I hope you guys have a great night.

Monday, November 30, 2009


We can’t give any of these things to you. These are all things that only you can give yourself.

You’ve got to have a vision for yourself and then you’ve got to put in the hard work.

Because when you do, when you use self discipline, you don’t just achieve excellence, you get the rewards that come with it.

Do the hard work and the doors will swing wide open.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving!

It's that time of year to give thanks, again. I know I try to give thanks more than just on Thanksgiving.

As Thanksgiving creeps up on us in just a couple days, I thought I would give thanks right here, right now.

I am thankful for my children. I'm not sure the woman I would be without them but I know who I am with them. My kids keep me focused. I try to see things in their eyes and try to feel what they feel.

I am thankful for my friends. Old and new, you are all close to my heart. But, I'm sure you already know how I feel about you....I'll say it again, I am blessed to have each of you in my life.

I am thankful for the not so simple things in this economy....A roof over our head, a place to lay at night and the food we have to eat. Honestly, everyday I hear more and more stories of good people losing their homes and having a hard time feeding their kids. It makes me so sad! And to think, I could be right there among the many. Yes, I am thankful!

I am thankful for being here one more day... Good or bad, I am here to embrace it.

I am thankful for my readers and followers. You let me know that you must like what I have to say or you would not come back. And for that, I thank you!

From my family to yours...I wish you love, happiness, peace, health and prosperity.

Happy Thanksgiving!!!!

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff!

A father was passing by his son's bedroom and was astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope propped up on the pillow that was addressed to 'Dad'. With the worse premonition he opened the envelope with trembling hands and read the letter.

Dear Dad:

It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with mom and you. I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice.

But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it's not only the passion...Dad, she's pregnant!

Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.

Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone. We'll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy.

In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it!

Don't worry Dad. I'm 15 and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure that we will be back so that you can get to know your grandchildren.

Your Son, John.

P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over Tommy's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than a report card. Which is in my center desk drawer.

I Love You... Let me know when it's safe to come home.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Busy, Busy, Busy

A big hello to my followers.... So sorry I have been slipping on the blogging lately. I guess you could say it's bittersweet what has been happening.

I've been dealing with more and more people lately that have lost their job and are looking to work at home now. It really is terrible. It does not seem to matter where you live... Washington, Texas, Maryland... So many people can't find a job out of the house. It's as if hiring is on hold everywhere unless you are a real young candidate. Companies know that they can pay them a little less and get twice as much work out of them than say, against, someone like myself who places a little value on what I know I am worth. And what I need to live!

So I have people contacting me like crazy lately... Asking the obvious questions of course:

1) Is what you do legit?
2) Do you really get paid?
3) Does the BBB back you up?
4) Do you get bonuses?
5) Do you sell?
6) Do I have to take orders?
7) Do I have to approach my friends and family?
8) Is there a big start up cost?
9) Is there training?
10) What's the catch?

The Answers:

1) Yes
2) Yes
3) Yes. Not only backed, but awarded.
4) Yes
5) No
6) No
7) No
8) No...Absolutely not.
9) Way too much to mention
10) No catch! Just serious people...Not curious.

There are so many scams out there....Please be careful! Just know that there is also legit companies as well.

Have a great evening!


Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of and

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Sunday, October 25, 2009

Never Outsmart a woman

A man calls home to his wife and says, “Honey, I have been asked to fly to Canada with my boss and several of his friends for fishing.. We'll20be gone for a long weekend. This is a good opportunity for me to get that promotion I've been wanting so could you please pack enough clothes for a 3 day weekend”.....

And also would you get out my rod and tackle box from the attic? We're leaving at 4:30 pm from the office and I will swing by the house to pick my things up.. Oh! And please pack my new navy blue silk pajamas..

The wife thinks this sounds a bit odd, but, being the good wife,
She does exactly what her husband asked.

Following the long weekend he came home a little tired, but, otherwise, looking good. The wife welcomes him home and asks if he caught many fish?

He says, Yes! Lots of Walleyes, some Bass, and a few Pike.

He said but why didn't you pack my new blue silk pajamas like I asked you to do?

The wife replies, “I did, they're in your tackle box”.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Enter 212°...The Extra Degree

The 212° concept is one of the most powerful communication concepts that I've ever experienced. Here's the idea...

  • At 211 degrees...water is hot.
  • At 212 boils.
  • And with boiling water, comes steam.
  • And steam can power a locomotive.
  • And, it's that one extra degree that...
  • Makes all the difference.

And, of course, so many times, in business and in life, it's that one extra degree of effort that separates the good from the great.

What I love about the 212° idea is that you can use it to fit your own needs. It may be 212° service that you'd like to reinforce, or 212° attitude, leadership, or quality. Or maybe, you'll choose to build your entire company culture around the 212° differentiate yourself from your competition.

However, what makes the 212° concept #1 in my mind is this: It's very simple, but more importantly, it's MEMORABLE! If you're trying to create a 212° culture your people will get it! And, not only will they get it, they'll remember it! When you say 212° service, they'll know exactly what you're talking about; when you say 212° attitude, teamwork, leadership...they'll understand.

Taken from "Simple Truths"

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Multiple Income Streams

Today, it seems most people have their feet dipped in several income streams rather than focusing on just one business. I'm not sure how I feel about that. I mean, if you are running two or more business's, then how can you put your all into a business and expect it to flourish?

I am not talking about adding streams of income like adwords, affiliate marketing and things of that nature. I'm talking about really running two or more business's.

I suggest finding one business that you really believe in and focus on that. Put your heart into it. It's ok to do little things on the side to generate extra income. Just don't spread yourself so thin that you are only giving 10% of yourself into ten different streams. I would rather see you put 90% in one business and and leave the other 10% for miscellaneous.

Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of and

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

90% of being a dad is just showing up!

The Spoiled Under 30 Crowd!

When I was a kid, adults used to bore me to tears with their tedious diatribes about how hard things were. When they were growing up; what with walking Twenty-five miles to school every morning....
Uphill... barefoot... BOTH ways... Yadda, yadda, yadda.

And I remember promising myself that when I grew up, there was no way in hell I was going to lay a bunch of crap like that on my kids about how hard I had it and how easy they've got it!

But now that... I'm over the ripe old age of thirty, I can't help but look around and notice the youth of today.

You've got it so easy! I mean, compared to my childhood, you live in a damn Utopia!

And I hate to say it, but you kids today, you don't know how good you've got it!

I mean, when I was a kid we didn't have The Internet. If we wanted to know something, we had to go to the damn library and look it up ourselves, in the card catalogue!!

There was no email!! We had to actually write somebody a letter - with a pen!

Then you had to walk all the way across the street and put it in the mailbox and it would take, like, a week to get there! Stamps were 10 cents!

Child Protective Services didn't care if our parents beat us. As a matter of fact, the parents of all my friends also had permission to kick our ass! Nowhere was safe!

There were no MP3' s or Napsters! If you wanted to steal music, you had to hitchhike to the damn record store and shoplift it yourself!

Or you had to wait around all day to tape it off the radio and the DJ would usually talk over the beginning and @#*% it all up! There were no CD players! We had tape decks in our car. We'd play our favorite tape and "eject" it when finished and the tape would come undone. Cause - that's how we rolled! dig?

We didn't have fancy crap like Call Waiting! If you were on the phone and somebody else called they got a busy signal, that's it!

And we didn't have fancy Caller ID either!
When the phone rang, you had no idea who it was! It could be your school, your mom, your boss, your bookie, your drug dealer, a collections agent, you just didn't know!!! You had to pick it up and take your chances, mister!

We didn't have any fancy Sony Playstation video games with high-resolution 3-D graphics! We had the Atari 2600! With games like 'Space Invaders' and 'Asteroids'. Your guy was a little square! You actually had to use your imagination!! And there were no multiple levels or screens, it was just one screen... forever!
And you could never win. The game just kept getting harder and harder and faster and faster until you died! Just like LIFE!

You had to use a little book called a TV Guide to find out what was on! You were screwed when it came to channel surfing! You had to get off your ass and walk over to the TV to change the channel! NO REMOTES!!!

There was no Cartoon Network either! You could only get cartoons on Saturday Morning. Do you hear what I'm saying!?! We had to wait ALL WEEK for cartoons, you spoiled little rat-bastards!

And we didn't have microwaves. If we wanted to heat something up we had to use the stove! Imagine that!

That's exactly what I'm talking about! You kids today have got it too easy. You're spoiled. You guys wouldn't have lasted five minutes back in 1980 or before!

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Wednesday, September 16, 2009

'Dear Lord:
Thank you for bringing me to Timmy's house, and not to Michael Vick's --AMEN! '

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Don't Quit!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
and you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twist and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
and you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst,
that you must not quit.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

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Thursday, September 3, 2009

The Roles Of Parents

So my little girl is off to 1st grade this year... I have been watching her more than usual lately....
I mean watching her without her even knowing.

She tends to play with the boys more than the girls around here...Which, I don't think twice of since I did the same thing.

I used to play touch football all the time with the neighborhood boys.... I never got into the Barbies and girly-girl things....Well, not until I was much older.

So I am standing at the front door watching her ride her bike off with another little boy...Her long blonde hair just bouncing up and down as she peddles away. She's only 6, but I am already wondering where the time went....When did she change from a baby to toddler....From toddler to a little girl....

She is very independent.... Needs to do things her way, even if it's wrong...She is developing a little sense of humor lately....She will just sit there and say something like "Yea, that's right"...It's just the way she says it to whatever I am asking..... lol. She really is funny.

I feel sad at times because a friend of mine told me that it is the childs father that teaches their daughter how to be treated by a man.... Maybe a future boyfriend... Husband.....And when a father is out of the picture, it is kind of hard for a little girl to know how to be treated by a man since they are not around.

I don't want my little girl to be treated badly by any man in her life...And I do see how NOT having her daddy around can affect the future choices that she makes. But I also can't rush out there and start dating just any man so she can learn how to be treated....

I guess I never realized the importance of a father in a daughters life...The role they took on. They are not there just to help take care of and raise... They actually teach (and not even knowingly) their daughter how a man is supposed to treat a lady....How a husband treats his wife is what the child will pick up and take with her.

Then there is my son...He's a little older now...So I guess the important role of a mother is to teach her son how a lady should be treated by a man... Again, I am lacking in that department. lol... But I do talk ALOT with my son... I think he knows what I would put up with from any man......What I think is acceptable, tolerable, good and bad....

My son says jokingly "Women do all the cleaning in the house" and I have to correct him and let him know that, that's not ok for every woman. If she is working just as much as the man then he can help out in the house as well.

I will say something about my son... He will make a lady very happy some day. He is sensitive enough to their needs yet is also When he is talking about something that really matters to him, his eyes get glossy, watery....Not tears..But, enough to matter to him. And I feel that passion, whatever it is, come right out.

So I guess I'm left with just doing the best I can... Striving and trying to leave a positive impact on my children.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Sunday, August 30, 2009

What is Teamwork?

The ______ of the Leader

According to John Maxwell, "The speed of the leader is the speed of the team." While that's true, it is important to remember that the leader sets many agendas in addition to speed. Consider this phrase: The ______ of the leader is the ______ of the team. Now pick almost any word to fill in the blanks...





Rarely will team members rise higher than the standard set by the team leader. As I often share with my audiences, team members pay more attention to what the leader does than what the leader says. Ideally, there is congruence between the words and the action of the leaders. Wherever there is discongruence, followers choose to believe actions.

Are you giving team members something to live up to? Or are you a limiting factor in the team's success?

Teamwork: Where?

While working with a telecom company recently, I was reminded of a couple of points about teamwork that are seldom addressed but critically important. The first is this:

Teamwork isn't always the best means to an end.

There is much organizational work that is better done by an individual. Trying to bring teamwork to bear on every process and activity is likely to create something that has a scary resemblance to the dreaded "management by committee."

To make teamwork work, it is necessary to answer the question "Where?" Where should we team and/or partner? What areas will be improved by applying a teamwork approach?

Secondly, it isn't enough to sell the benefits of teamwork if you can't identify the opportunities. This is related to my previous point. Start by asking where in your organization teamwork is most needed. Rather than apply a general and vague team approach, target specific areas. Once momentum is gained in those important areas, you can increase the scope of teamwork.

I wonder how many team efforts crashed and burned because nobody ever asked if teamwork was desirable for the type of work being done, or identified where the opportunities for teamwork were greatest.

Middle-Down Teamwork

One of the most common mistakes I observe is what I call "middle-down teamwork." That occurs when upper management thinks that teamwork is a great concept for every in the organization except them.

Here's what happens: someone in leadership gets turned-on by an article in Fortune or Business Week about the organizational benefits of teamwork. That usually results in a mandate to create teamwork that is directed to middle management. Middle management is expected to put their people through prerequisite training and take the steps necessary to ""make it happen." Often during the initial training, it becomes painfully obvious to those involved that upper management neither practices nor supports the concept of teamwork, and that if teamwork is to happen, it will happen from the middle down. Evaluations of the training include comments like, "Why wasn't upper management involved in the training?" and "I hope our leadership takes these lessons to heart."

For teamwork to work, it must be embraced--in principle and in practice--by everyone in the organization. But, in my opinion, the best place for a teamwork initiative to start is at the top. Once employees see leadership practicing what they preach, it becomes significantly easier to get acceptance throughout the organization.

1. In successful teams, team members are interdependent. They are willing to ask for help when they need it and offer help when they can provide it.
2. Work groups compete inward. Teams compete outward. There are three things you can use to create healthy competition: a competitor in the marketplace, a team goal to be achieved or a common problem to be solved.
3. Team members are self-starters. Since they understand the big picture, they don't need to be told what to do.
4. Successful team members share both rewards and sacrifices. Don't expect people to make sacrifices if they won't get to share in the rewards later.
5. The best thing you can strive for is not a team with a great leader. The highest goal is a team of leaders.

Thursday, August 27, 2009


Plugging... What an effective way to get your business or service out there.. And guess what? It's FREE.

So many websites and blogs have plug boards on them that will allow you to place your plug and url on their board in exchange for allowing them to plug on yours...And you can still find websites and blogs that will let you plug without even having a plug board of your own.

Of course you can google "plug boards" but you won't get as many listings as you would by actually visiting one. Because once you visit one, you will have access to many more.

You will need a plug image that represents you. For this blog, I am using the "My Kids My Why" and I can go to other blogs or websites and plug it...Meaning, when someone clicks on the image, it will take them to my business or service.

Example: at the bottom of this blog is a section called "Plug It" When plugging you will need an image url and a website url.... In the first box is where you will input the image url.... That link is what allows your image to show.... The second box is your website url..... once you enter both, you click on "plug" and that will display your image and link so someone can click on it and see what you are all about.

So go ahead and plug everywhere you can... It's a great way to get your business/service out there and the best part is, it's FREE!

Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of and

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

And yes, I voted for Obama!!!

Leave it to Maxine to come up with a solution for the mess that we are in economically now

I bought a bird feeder. I hung
It on my back porch and filled
It with seed. What a beauty of
A bird feeder it was, as I filled it

Lovingly with seed. Within a
Week we had hundreds of birds
Taking advantage of the
Continuous flow of free and
Easily accessible food.

But then the birds started
Building nests in the boards
Of the patio, above the table,
And next to the barbecue.

Then came the poop. It was
Everywhere: on the patio tile,
The chairs, the table ..

Then some of the birds
Turned mean. They would
Dive bomb me and try to
Peck me even though I had
Fed them out of my own

And others birds were
Boisterous and loud. They
Sat on the feeder and
Squawked and screamed at
All hours of the day and night
And demanded that I fill it
When it got low on food.

After a while, I couldn't even
Sit on my own back porch
Anymore. So I took down the
Bird feeder and in three days
The birds were gone. I cleaned
Up their mess and took down
The many nests they had built
All over the patio.

Soon, the back yard was like
It used to be .... Quiet, serene....
And no one demanding their
Rights to a free meal.

Now let's see.
Our government gives out
Free food, subsidized housing,
Free medical care and free
Education, and allows anyone
Born here to be an automatic

Then the illegals came by the
Tens of thousands. Suddenly
Our taxes went up to pay for
Free services; small apartments
Are housing 5 families; you
Have to wait 6 hours to be seen
By an emergency room doctor;
Your child's second grade class is
Behind other schools because
Over half the class doesn't speak

Corn Flakes now come in a
Bilingual box; I have to
'press one ' to hear my bank
Talk to me in English, and
People waving flags other
Than our flag are
Squawking and screaming
In the streets, demanding
More rights and free liberties.

Just my opinion, but maybe
it's time for the government
To take down the bird feeder.

If you agree, pass it on; if not,
Continue cleaning up the poop.

Monday, August 24, 2009

Friday, August 21, 2009

Awww..I don't know what to do....

Ok, I have a situation that I don't know how to handle. If only this was about business... I know that inside and out.

This involves family... Family that I choose to have no contact with. All I can say is that for all the people out there that have close ties to their family, their parents, siblings and cousins.... I so envy that.

But some of us end up in situations where we have to choose between sanity and family connections. And that's what I had to do. After the birth of my son, I knew I had to choose sanity.....I only wanted the best for my boy....And honestly, in my situation it was not a hard choice to make considering the upbringing that I had.

So I cut off all ties to family accept to those that were of no harm to me or my family... That being my brother and my Grandmother....Which I love so deeply.

So now I have recently come across my sister....She of course has a blog out there and I stumbled on it... My brother tells me that she is a lost soul....Into a lot of trouble and stuff....But the BIG sister in me kicks in and I want to know how she is....(she lost a baby, my niece, awhile back).......Yet I am scared to let her in because I don't want her to take advantage of me or my kids.... I don't want to get close again and end up with no sister... Which is what happened before.

Yes, I could sit here and tell the (poor is me stories) of how I not only took care of my brother and sister while we were growing up... But I also had to gain custody of them. And then I found myself in a position where I had to choose between my brother or my husband.... And I chose my brother....Which helped to end my marriage....

I tried so hard with my sister to keep her on the right track yet she ventured off down the wrong road....I lost contact with her after that....I had a son and had to put him first, along with my sanity.

Here I am, giving the opportunity to reach out to my sister....My blood... Who seems to still be a lost soul, yet the sisterliness in me wants to reach out to her.... I just don't know what to do.

If she is mixed up in drugs or things of that nature... I don't want anything to do with her...Yet a part of me understands the grief she must feel with the loss of her little girl (my niece).... And I am her sister, after all....

As my children get older, I can only be grateful for the family that they do have and hope they understand why I have to keep my distance from my family....

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Looking In The Mirror

What do you see when you look in

the mirror? My 41st birthday was
yesterday and as I look in my mirror,
I can see all the fine lines and the
wrinkles that are becoming me.

Each line has it's own story. Some are
happy times and some are not so happy.
But they are mine and I earned each one.

Well, I survived my 41st Birthday. (woohoo)!
Honestly, I think my kids

were more excited than I was.

My little girl kept calling me "The
Birthday Girl" and my son just
kept hugging me all day....One of his
friends even came over to play and
my son told him it was my birthday
and he wanted to hang out with me..

"What"? I thought to myself. Is he
sick? Did he bump his head? lol

So we went out to eat which was
a real treat since I am the one
that's always cooking. I even stopped off and got a hair cut. Mistake! I won't go there anymore. I now have bangs. The problem is, I have not had bangs in years... Now I do and they are about 1/2 inch long... Blah!!!

They even made me a cake which was the best cake ever! And now they want me to take
them to the water park....Saying it's for me.. So we are continuing my birthday on Monday by taking the kids to the water park...

Yes. I am a little older, showing it a little more...But when I look in the mirror, I still see the 'little girl in me, just with a few lines and wrinkles....

Monday, August 17, 2009

Oil Change Instructions

Oil Change instructions for Women :

1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since the last oil change.

2) Drink a cup of coffee.

3) 15 minutes later, write a check and leave with a properly maintained vehicle.

Money spent:

Oil Change: $20.00
Coffee: $1.00
Total: $21.00

Oil Change instructions for Men:

1) Wait until Saturday, drive to auto parts store and buy a case of oil, filter, kitty litter, hand cleaner and a scented tree, write a check for $50.00.

2) Stop by 7/11 and buy a case of beer, write a check for $20, drive home.

3) Open a beer and drink it.

4) Jack car up. Spend 30 minutes looking for jack stands.

5) Find jack stands under kid's pedal car.

6) In frustration, open another beer and drink it.

7) Place drain pan under engine.

8) Look for 9/16 box end wrench.

9) Give up and use crescent wrench.

10) Unscrew drain plug.

11) Drop drain plug in pan of hot oil: splash hot oil on you in process. Cuss.

12) Crawl out from under car to wipe hot oil off of face and arms. Throw kitty litter on spilled oil.

13) Have another beer while watching oil drain.

14) Spend 30 minutes looking for oil filter wrench.

15) Give up; crawl under car and hammer a screwdriver through oil filter and twist off.

16) Crawl out from under car with dripping oil filter splashing oil everywhere from holes. Cleverly hide old oil filter among trash in trash can to avoid environmental penalties. Drink a beer.

17) Install new oil filter making sure to apply a thin coat of oil to gasket surface.

18) Dump first quart of fresh oil into engine.

19) Remember drain plug from step 11.

20) Hurry to find drain plug in drain pan.

21) Drink beer.

22) Discover that first quart of fresh oil is now on the floor. Throw kitty litter on oil spill.

23) Get drain plug back in with only a minor spill. Drink beer.

24) Crawl under car getting kitty litter into eyes. Wipe eyes with oily rag used to clean drain plug. Slip with stupid crescent wrench tightening drain plug and bang knuckles on frame removing any excess skin between knuckles and frame.

25) Begin cussing fit.

26) Throw stupid crescent wrench.

27) Cuss for additional 5 minutes because wrench hit bowling trophy.

28) Beer.

29) Clean up hands and bandage as required to stop blood flow.

30) Beer.

31) Dump in five fresh quarts of oil.

32) Beer.

33) Lower car from jack stands.

34) Move car back to apply more kitty litter to fresh oil spilled during any missed steps.

35) Beer.

36) Test drive car.

37) Get pulled over: arrested for driving under the influence.

38) Car gets impounded.

39) Call loving wife, make bail.

40) 12 hours later, get car from impound yard.

Money spent:
$ 50.00
DUI: $2500.00
Impound fee: $ 75.00
Total: $4,145.00