Thursday, December 17, 2009
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Six steps to accomplish your goals and resolutions
Achieve your dreams: Six steps to accomplish your goals and resolutions. Don't let your goals and resolutions fall by the wayside. Chances are that to achieve your dreams and live a life you love, those goals and resolutions are crucial. Goal setting and goal achievement are easier if you follow these six steps for effective and successful goal setting and resolution accomplishment . They must be in writing.
1) You need to deeply desire the goal or resolution. The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.
So, your first step in goal setting and achieving your dreams is that you've got to really, really want to achieve the goal!
2) Visualize yourself achieving the goal. Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. What will your achievement feel like? How will your life unfold differently as a result? Keep a picture of the item where you see and are reminded of it everyday. If you can't picture yourself achieving the goal, chances are...You won't!
3) Make a plan for the path you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Create action steps to follow. Identify the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. You have to make sure that the blueprint is really what you want and that you've thought everything through. Begin every day with the end results in mind.
4) Commit to achieving the goal by writing down the goal. Lee Iacocca said "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen". Write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path.
Writing down the goal, the plan and the time-line, sets events in motion.
5) Establish times for checking your progress in your calendar system. Day planner, hand written list, Outlook...If you're not making progress, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Just know that something is and probably will go wrong. Take a look at all the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan.
6) Review your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. Analyze where the goal is not being met.. Don't allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior 5 steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you want to achieve the goal!
By: My Team
1) You need to deeply desire the goal or resolution. The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.
So, your first step in goal setting and achieving your dreams is that you've got to really, really want to achieve the goal!
2) Visualize yourself achieving the goal. Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. What will your achievement feel like? How will your life unfold differently as a result? Keep a picture of the item where you see and are reminded of it everyday. If you can't picture yourself achieving the goal, chances are...You won't!
3) Make a plan for the path you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Create action steps to follow. Identify the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. You have to make sure that the blueprint is really what you want and that you've thought everything through. Begin every day with the end results in mind.
4) Commit to achieving the goal by writing down the goal. Lee Iacocca said "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen". Write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path.
Writing down the goal, the plan and the time-line, sets events in motion.
5) Establish times for checking your progress in your calendar system. Day planner, hand written list, Outlook...If you're not making progress, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Just know that something is and probably will go wrong. Take a look at all the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan.
6) Review your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. Analyze where the goal is not being met.. Don't allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior 5 steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you want to achieve the goal!
By: My Team
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Selective Hearing
I'm discussing a little tonight about people with selective hearing. I'm sure we all know someone that this applies to. Shoot, I've even been accused of it.
I am comfortable talking about this here because the person I will be referring to, does not even know about this blog.
I have a dear friend that I care about. And I am glad to call her my friend. But, aside from all the gossiping she does, I've noticed that she does not really pay attention when people talk to her.
I'd guess you say, she tunes in and out. She even admits that she does this.
I get a phone call from her last night that she was discussing me and my kids with a member of the family. Somehow she is on this Christmas kick and began discussing how my sons father needs to do more at Christmas for these kids and not worry about other families.
Whoa! I stopped her right there. Throughout this whole blog, I have always said and will continue to say how there is no better father that my sons father. And the way he takes to my little girl is such a blessing as well. All the years that I have been blogging, I have never said anything negative about his being a dad. He does more than alot of other dads.
So I stopped her right there. She brought up a toy that my little girl received, where I made a funny comment about it and she took what I said and twisted it to be negative and then told the family member about this.
Which, by the way... All of this is being told to my sons father!
She then continues to tell me how she also mentioned a couple good comments... Like how my sons father is still the love of my life... Another WHOA!!!!
I stop her immediately and ask her why she would say that... She said that was what she heard me say in the past.. I had to point out to her that what I said was "I have only been in love once, and that was with my sons father".... I never said he is the love of my life. Sure, I care about him and don't want anything bad to happen to him... But he is not the love of my life! There is a difference.
She also begins to tell me that she did mention something nice that I said...I'm sitting on the edge of my seat, listening. She mentioned how I sad that the girlfriend is good for my sons father... That she does seem to make him happy.
Now, how can she get that part right and everything else messed up? She called me up telling me that this family member went ahead and told my sons father all about the things I "said"...(Which I did not say). And that she wanted to give me heads up about it. She also seemed upset that the family member took what she told him and went to my sons father with it.
I really do believe that after all this time, my sons father knows where my heart is....That I would not say those type of negative things. But I am also worried that the girlfriend would hear this crap and think that I still want to make moves on my ex.... Which I don't. I don't want her feeling like I am a threat. Which, I'm not.
I explained to this friend that she needs to really listen when people talk to her....Not be selective and pick what she thinks she hears...And she even admitted that she does do that. She apologized to me and said she did not know what to do about it... I told her that if this created issues between me and any of the family, then we would have a problem. I told her that it has taken me way too long to get to this point. To where I can even talk with my sons father again...And that by her giving "Wrong" info could jeopardize the point of where we are. I don't know about anyone else, but I like knowing that I get along ok with my ex....That we wish each other only good. It took a long time to build that up from where we came from.
Not sure what to do.... Or how to feel. How can someone take casual conversation and turn it into
negative comments? I even told her recently how my ex fixed the exhaust on my van for me...
She turned around and told me that she thought my friend did it. More proof that she does not really listen.
And the thing is, I don't volunteer info freely. So if I do, I would hope the person listening would get what I said correctly.
Now it's going to be up to me to approach my ex and his girlfriend and let them know what I heard and explain what I did not say and what I did say! I so hate having to explain myself... Or feel like I am defending myself.
The funny thing is, I went all out this year and made a gift basket up for my ex and his girlfriend for Christmas... From the kids. And I did that a couple weeks ago. Not sure I should give it since it may look like guilt on my part...And I did and said nothing wrong to feel guilty about.
Well, it's been a long time since I have done any venting like this... lol...Thanks for listening and trying to follow along...I hope you guys have a great night.
I am comfortable talking about this here because the person I will be referring to, does not even know about this blog.
I have a dear friend that I care about. And I am glad to call her my friend. But, aside from all the gossiping she does, I've noticed that she does not really pay attention when people talk to her.
I'd guess you say, she tunes in and out. She even admits that she does this.
I get a phone call from her last night that she was discussing me and my kids with a member of the family. Somehow she is on this Christmas kick and began discussing how my sons father needs to do more at Christmas for these kids and not worry about other families.
Whoa! I stopped her right there. Throughout this whole blog, I have always said and will continue to say how there is no better father that my sons father. And the way he takes to my little girl is such a blessing as well. All the years that I have been blogging, I have never said anything negative about his being a dad. He does more than alot of other dads.
So I stopped her right there. She brought up a toy that my little girl received, where I made a funny comment about it and she took what I said and twisted it to be negative and then told the family member about this.
Which, by the way... All of this is being told to my sons father!
She then continues to tell me how she also mentioned a couple good comments... Like how my sons father is still the love of my life... Another WHOA!!!!
I stop her immediately and ask her why she would say that... She said that was what she heard me say in the past.. I had to point out to her that what I said was "I have only been in love once, and that was with my sons father".... I never said he is the love of my life. Sure, I care about him and don't want anything bad to happen to him... But he is not the love of my life! There is a difference.
She also begins to tell me that she did mention something nice that I said...I'm sitting on the edge of my seat, listening. She mentioned how I sad that the girlfriend is good for my sons father... That she does seem to make him happy.
Now, how can she get that part right and everything else messed up? She called me up telling me that this family member went ahead and told my sons father all about the things I "said"...(Which I did not say). And that she wanted to give me heads up about it. She also seemed upset that the family member took what she told him and went to my sons father with it.
I really do believe that after all this time, my sons father knows where my heart is....That I would not say those type of negative things. But I am also worried that the girlfriend would hear this crap and think that I still want to make moves on my ex.... Which I don't. I don't want her feeling like I am a threat. Which, I'm not.
I explained to this friend that she needs to really listen when people talk to her....Not be selective and pick what she thinks she hears...And she even admitted that she does do that. She apologized to me and said she did not know what to do about it... I told her that if this created issues between me and any of the family, then we would have a problem. I told her that it has taken me way too long to get to this point. To where I can even talk with my sons father again...And that by her giving "Wrong" info could jeopardize the point of where we are. I don't know about anyone else, but I like knowing that I get along ok with my ex....That we wish each other only good. It took a long time to build that up from where we came from.
Not sure what to do.... Or how to feel. How can someone take casual conversation and turn it into
negative comments? I even told her recently how my ex fixed the exhaust on my van for me...
She turned around and told me that she thought my friend did it. More proof that she does not really listen.
And the thing is, I don't volunteer info freely. So if I do, I would hope the person listening would get what I said correctly.
Now it's going to be up to me to approach my ex and his girlfriend and let them know what I heard and explain what I did not say and what I did say! I so hate having to explain myself... Or feel like I am defending myself.
The funny thing is, I went all out this year and made a gift basket up for my ex and his girlfriend for Christmas... From the kids. And I did that a couple weeks ago. Not sure I should give it since it may look like guilt on my part...And I did and said nothing wrong to feel guilty about.
Well, it's been a long time since I have done any venting like this... lol...Thanks for listening and trying to follow along...I hope you guys have a great night.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
Motivation…Direction…Inspiration
We can’t give any of these things to you. These are all things that only you can give yourself.
You’ve got to have a vision for yourself and then you’ve got to put in the hard work.
Because when you do, when you use self discipline, you don’t just achieve excellence, you get the rewards that come with it.
Do the hard work and the doors will swing wide open.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving!
It's that time of year to give thanks, again. I know I try to give thanks more than just on Thanksgiving.
As Thanksgiving creeps up on us in just a couple days, I thought I would give thanks right here, right now.
I am thankful for my children. I'm not sure the woman I would be without them but I know who I am with them. My kids keep me focused. I try to see things in their eyes and try to feel what they feel.
I am thankful for my friends. Old and new, you are all close to my heart. But, I'm sure you already know how I feel about you....I'll say it again, I am blessed to have each of you in my life.
I am thankful for the not so simple things in this economy....A roof over our head, a place to lay at night and the food we have to eat. Honestly, everyday I hear more and more stories of good people losing their homes and having a hard time feeding their kids. It makes me so sad! And to think, I could be right there among the many. Yes, I am thankful!
I am thankful for being here one more day... Good or bad, I am here to embrace it.
I am thankful for my readers and followers. You let me know that you must like what I have to say or you would not come back. And for that, I thank you!
From my family to yours...I wish you love, happiness, peace, health and prosperity.
Happy Thanksgiving!!!!
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Don't Sweat The Small Stuff!
A father was passing by his son's bedroom and was astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope propped up on the pillow that was addressed to 'Dad'. With the worse premonition he opened the envelope with trembling hands and read the letter.
Dear Dad:
It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with mom and you. I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice.
But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it's not only the passion...Dad, she's pregnant!
Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.
Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone. We'll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy.
In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it!
Don't worry Dad. I'm 15 and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure that we will be back so that you can get to know your grandchildren.
Love,
Your Son, John.
P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over Tommy's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than a report card. Which is in my center desk drawer.
I Love You... Let me know when it's safe to come home.
Dear Dad:
It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with mom and you. I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice.
But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it's not only the passion...Dad, she's pregnant!
Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.
Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone. We'll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy.
In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it!
Don't worry Dad. I'm 15 and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure that we will be back so that you can get to know your grandchildren.
Love,
Your Son, John.
P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over Tommy's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than a report card. Which is in my center desk drawer.
I Love You... Let me know when it's safe to come home.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Busy, Busy, Busy
A big hello to my followers.... So sorry I have been slipping on the blogging lately. I guess you could say it's bittersweet what has been happening.
I've been dealing with more and more people lately that have lost their job and are looking to work at home now. It really is terrible. It does not seem to matter where you live... Washington, Texas, Maryland... So many people can't find a job out of the house. It's as if hiring is on hold everywhere unless you are a real young candidate. Companies know that they can pay them a little less and get twice as much work out of them than say, against, someone like myself who places a little value on what I know I am worth. And what I need to live!
So I have people contacting me like crazy lately... Asking the obvious questions of course:
1) Is what you do legit?
2) Do you really get paid?
3) Does the BBB back you up?
4) Do you get bonuses?
5) Do you sell?
6) Do I have to take orders?
7) Do I have to approach my friends and family?
8) Is there a big start up cost?
9) Is there training?
10) What's the catch?
The Answers:
1) Yes
2) Yes
3) Yes. Not only backed, but awarded.
4) Yes
5) No
6) No
7) No
8) No...Absolutely not.
9) Way too much to mention
10) No catch! Just serious people...Not curious.
There are so many scams out there....Please be careful! Just know that there is also legit companies as well.
Have a great evening!
Cindy
Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.
Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.
I've been dealing with more and more people lately that have lost their job and are looking to work at home now. It really is terrible. It does not seem to matter where you live... Washington, Texas, Maryland... So many people can't find a job out of the house. It's as if hiring is on hold everywhere unless you are a real young candidate. Companies know that they can pay them a little less and get twice as much work out of them than say, against, someone like myself who places a little value on what I know I am worth. And what I need to live!
So I have people contacting me like crazy lately... Asking the obvious questions of course:
1) Is what you do legit?
2) Do you really get paid?
3) Does the BBB back you up?
4) Do you get bonuses?
5) Do you sell?
6) Do I have to take orders?
7) Do I have to approach my friends and family?
8) Is there a big start up cost?
9) Is there training?
10) What's the catch?
The Answers:
1) Yes
2) Yes
3) Yes. Not only backed, but awarded.
4) Yes
5) No
6) No
7) No
8) No...Absolutely not.
9) Way too much to mention
10) No catch! Just serious people...Not curious.
There are so many scams out there....Please be careful! Just know that there is also legit companies as well.
Have a great evening!
Cindy
Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.
Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.
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