Saturday, July 4, 2009
Choose Your Words Carefully
As a woman running my own business, I had to learn something that is essential. "Blocking Out Negativity". You know those comments such as "You are not gonna make it" or "Cindy, It's not going to work" or my most favorite is the "Why don't you go get a real job".....
I've also come to realize that it's only their own thoughts and beliefs that would make a person say such things. If they don't think it would work for them, then they don't think it's going to work for you. You need to block out the negativity...That Simple!
I believe that's a skill that children need to learn at a young age as well....Too many times there are people that say hurtful things to a child. Whether you are arguing with your child or a statement just rolls off the tongue, you need to realize when something hurtful was said and then apologize for saying so.
I don't believe in taking personal issues or concerns that a child or even an adult may have about themselves and then use it in any manner against them. Let's take a persons weight for example.
If you have a few extra pounds, the chances are that you don't feel as good about yourself as you could. Now, when this is the case of a child and a comment is made about their weight...Whether it's jokingly or you meant to say it....You need to stop and realize that you just hurt someones feelings. Do you know what is going through their thoughts? Do you realize the hurt you just added to their heart? How a comment can slowly destroy their self confidence....Make them feel LESS..... Just because they will become an adult one day does not mean that the hurtful comments will just disappear... They will linger in the back of their minds and stay in their heart, and even grow right along with them.
Makes me wonder how a parent would feel if your child made a hurtful comment about your weight or even your partners weight? I bet most parents would approach the child and point out how they said something that was hurtful....Some may even make the child apologize to the adult. Hmmm... What a concept... I think the adult needs to apologize to the child as well.
My Quote Of The Day; Choose Your Words Carefully.