Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Live Traffic Feed

Ok, so I have seen this FeedJit live traffic feed showing up more and more on website and blogs... I even have it on my blog on the lower left side....It's supposed to be a visual tool that catches the attention of your viewers. But I have to say one thing, the locations that it displays are not accurate.

For instance, when it shows the Elyria, that's actually LaGrange and Elyria. And when it displays Berea, that's actually North Olmsted.

Once again, I stand by stat counter.... It's a behind the scene tool, however, more effective and accurate.

Are you using FeedJit and do you like it?

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Miracles For Mallory

I am adding this story to my blog because it touched my heart.....Maybe after reading the story, you will see why.

Mallory Marie was born with Trisomy 18. She had a severe heart defect and an omphalocele. Throughout the pregnancy, Mallory was given little hope of surviving the birth. Beating those odds, Mallory fought to stay alive for four wonderful days, touching every person that came into contact with her. She was a magnificent little girl who only blessed lives and knew love.

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Thanks for visiting..... Remember to give your children an extra long hug tonight. I did.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

Am I an Entrepreneur?

Businesses fail, and often. If you think you want to run your own business, but are not sure you can be a successful Entrepreneur, I am glad you are thinking about it… keep reading. How does an Entrepreneur think, act, and respond? Is your personality a fit for being a successful Entrepreneur? Do you have what it takes?

Until recently, Entrepreneurs were not well thought of. As recent as the 80’s we looked on them as un-educated business men involved in shady dealings. There was a general lack of knowledge and information about what makes them successful.

Big business was the place to be, now that’s all changed. Our generation and the ones after us expect so much more from our career / work than our parents did. We want money, satisfaction, self expression and flexible hours such as a 4 day work week and tele-commuting. We have more small businesses than ever before in our U.S. history. In addition, smaller businesses are now attracting great employees and competing with the corporate world by offering those employees exactly what they want.

Today we have books, courses and business coaches in abundance. Some universities now offer courses and degrees in entrepreneurship. Business professionals have vast resources and as a whole we have learned a lot about what it takes to become a successful entrepreneur. I realize there is probably no such thing as the perfect entrepreneurial profile, I have noticed that there are many characteristics that seem to show up repeatedly in my work as a business coach. So from my work with hundreds of entrepreneurs as a coach and trainer, this is my summary.

Successful Entrepreneurs are, have or do

Available- In small businesses, where there is no depth of management, the owner must be present to win. They can’t afford a support staff to cover all business roles, and therefore need to either work long hours; have very talented people or both.

Self-Motivated-Entrepreneurs do not function well in structured organizations and do not like someone having authority over them. Rules, bureaucracy and politics frustrate them. This is often what leads them to start their own business. They enjoy creating business strategies and thrive on the process of achieving their goals. Once they obtain a goal, they quickly move to a greater goal. They constantly look to the future vision of the business. They have a compelling drive to do their own thing in their own way. They value freedom over money.

Well- Being- Successful Entrepreneurs are physically sound and in good health. They can work for extended periods of time as needed. They understand the relationship between a healthy body and a sharp mind.

Practical-Pragmatic- Entrepreneurs can accept what is and what is not and deal with issues accordingly. They may or may not be idealistic, but they are rarely unrealistic. They want to know the facts and condition of a given situation at all times. They may be too trusting (because they are often idealist) and may not be sufficiently skeptical in their business dealings with other people.

Embrace Ambiguity - Entrepreneurs identify problems and begin working on their solution faster than other people. Uncertainty does not bother them because their Healthy Ego feels challenged and likes to solve problems. They are the natural “go to” person in the group or business.

Intelligence - Successful Entrepreneurs think fast on their feet. They can comprehend complex problems and circumstances that may require planning, strategy, or working on multiple business ideas at once. They have vision and are aware of important factors to consider. They are open minded and will consider different perspectives. They seem flexible and are not afraid to change direction when failing.

Healthy Ego- Entrepreneurs are confident when they feel in control of what they’re doing and often like to work alone. They tackle problems head on and quickly with confidence. They are persistent in problem solving and are not afraid of smart risks. They do well with adversity, because they thrive on their own level of confidence. Someone saying or thinking they can’t pull it off doesn’t bother them at all.

Urgency- Entrepreneurs have a sense of urgency. They have drive and high energy levels, they are achievement-oriented, and they are tireless in the pursuit of their goals. Idleness makes them impatient, on edge, and anxious. They thrive on activity and are not likely to be found at the nail salon or golf course. When they are in the entrepreneurial mode, they are more likely to be found getting things done instead of all the other “to-do’s”.

Emotional Stability- Successful Entrepreneurs can handle stress and are even having fun! They are challenged rather than discouraged by setbacks or failures. Entrepreneurs are surprisingly uncomfortable when things are going well. This is when they will probably find a new project on which to focus their creative energy.

Ability to let go-Entrepreneurs are not always the best “people” people. They are often impatient and drive themselves and everyone around them. They also resist delegating key decisions or responsibilities. My favorite coaching question for the Entrepreneur is “who can help you with this?” It shakes them up every time. It is not uncommon for the Entrepreneur to do the books, drive business development and buy the office supplies.

As the business grows and becomes an organization, Entrepreneurs go through a classic crisis (this is usually when they call us). They have become the bottle neck; their want for control has made it hard for them to hand over authority in the way that a growing business demands. Their strong direct approach makes them more likely to seek information directly from the source, bypassing the structured chains of authority and responsibility. Their interpersonal skills, which were adequate during the start-up phase, will cause them problems as they try to adjust and free themselves from the day to day operations. Cash flow, retention and low morale are symptoms of this issue.

Do you recognize yourself? Did you locate your likely strengths as an Entrepreneur? Did you identify potential barriers to your success? Awareness matters here. Focus on your strengths, be aware of your weaknesses and go for it!

Author Alicia Fruin–Owner of Profit Consulting Co., Alicia has become a leader in the field of coaching, consulting and training for small business. She has designed more than 80 custom training programs for hundreds of business owners in a variety of industries across the country. In addition, Alicia has coached managers, presidents and sales professionals on how to build a business truly worth having!

Saturday, July 26, 2008

The Sigh Of Relief....

I know I am not the only person that had a stressful job (outside of the house) and felt the way I did. My thoughts were often "I am making this much to be treated this way and tolerate this crap"? Now, there's alot to be said with what a personal will tolerate for the money that they make. Someone earning $80,000 a year may tolerate a little more that someone earning $20,000 a year But I was not the one earning $80,000 a year.... So, to be treated like I was crap, was not worth it. I will say one thing.... I'm not walking on egg shells anymore.... I'm not uneasy. Or nervous. And I no longer get paid to be treated like crap!!!!! Sure there was flexibility for me, but remember, I also had to walk away from benefits, paid Holidays and vacation to maintain that job.

Yes, I sit here without a full time "JOB" but I am happy. For once, in a very long time.... I am happy. I can sit here and have everything shut off, but I am happy.....I'm not stressed, my kids see a happier mom..... My nerves are not shot.... LOL.....And I feel alive... I know that sounds weird, but I do.

Now, I am still going for interviews.... Blasting my resume everywhere.....And in the free time I have, I am also working my business, which was very part time prior to all of this happening.

It's funny how you can be at a company for awhile and become close to certain people. Become friends. I am grateful for my friend, Irene, that I made while I was there. She was my closest friend there...We are so much alike. And I am glad that we still keep in touch. However, I am a little surprised at how I have NOT heard from a couple people. And one of them was someone I defended to my boss...... I was brought into a situation by her and took my boss outside to explain how this person was really NOT as bad as she thought.... Not defiant.... Not willing to work..... I stuck up for her..... I'm the only one that did.
And to not even get a call to see how I am doing, blows my mind. I took a chance on explaining to my boss her problems, and feelings..... And I could have very well left it alone..... But once again, I tried to defend the under-dog.

Well, sorry lady... Now you are on your own...... LOL.....Maybe it's time you stood up to the monster yourself.

Here is a good night thought.... Remember, there are those that have it worse than you.....I am grateful for my health.... My children's health.... For not being paid to be treated like crap.... For being here for my kids....For having my business that is my vehicle to my future, as well as my children's. If you can see it, taste it, feel it... It will be.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Have you ever wondered why???

If you are someone that has alot of obstacles.... Alot of hoops to jump through.....Alot of "What Now" moments..... You can't help but wonder "why" is this happening..... Why am I going through this?

I could see bad things happening to a person that neglects thier children, sells everything they own for drugs, does not care about anyone, does not have dreams or a reason to live. But, that's not me....At all.

I am a good person... I have a big heart... I help out when I can... I long for more....I LOVE and take care of my kids....I'm a good mom..... I have drive and determination.....I am not someone that gives up.....I jump through the hoops (getting tired after awhile) but I keep jumping.

After awhile, you can't help but SCREAM>>>>> Enough!!! <<<<<

And that's where I am at today. My life has always been harder than the average Joe....(Jill) in my case... LOL

But I never give up.....Lose my focus......Or stop trying.....I get tired and frustrated, but, I will keep moving on....It just would be nice to have a break every now and then.

So for anyone else that feels this way. STOP! This too shall pass. And we will do what we always have..... And that's to get back up and keep moving forward.

Have a good night.

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Weekend Update

Ok... so my website is falling into place nicely. Check it out for yourself.

Mommies Webbies, is running a special as well. The first person to use the FREE Advertising at mykidsmywhy will receive FREE advertising for their business/service at mommies webbies. Now that's pretty cool.

I am currently running some great advertising specials at mykids. And if you notice that all content is not up yet, please be patient... It is being worked on.

I decided to dump my personal blog that I was working on... So I will be adding a little personal side of myself here as well as business... It seems to be attracting alot of visitors this way.

And I have allowed a comment to come through without really paying attention (kids fighting in the background, phones ringing, neighbor coming over) . The comment was anonymous so I would like to say that I love getting comments, and I post the good as well as the bad... But that comment should not have ever gotten through and it was my fault that it did. I don't like that kind of language myself and I don't seem to be able to remove it.

Ok.... That's it for now.... There will be another update on the personal side of me soon.

Friday, July 18, 2008

My Kids My Website

My Kids My Why website is up and running. There are still a few things being uploaded. For all those that were previously on the banner exchange/link exchange, your info is being uploaded as well. Again, a BIG Thank You to Rachel @ mommieswebbies for working with me so late into the night....

As mentioned previously, Check Out the BOGO special at mykids to see all the advertising options that are available. I'm sure one is right for you.

BOGO ends 7-31-08

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Common Chemicals May Have Austism Link

Check out the news article on Autism. Then feel free to visit the link below if you know someone that is autistic.

Click Here For Info On Autism

BOGO Special

Ok.... I am running a banner/button avertising special on
If you are looking for another website to advertise your button/banner, then stop by at MyKidsMyWhy

468x60 Banner on all pages - $18.00 Month - Buy one month, get one free
125-125 Button on all pages - $15.00 Month - Buy one month, get one free

This offer is good until 7-31-08

With the new roll out of mykidsmywhy... there will be alot more room on the home page for advertising.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Woohoo To Mommies Webbies

Ok... I need to send out a BIG Thank You To Rachel at

We have been working together on and giving the website a little face lift. It's not an extreme change.... It's subtle.....And I really like it. It's not completed yet... Almost though. And it's much easier to navigate around... And the best part is, there will be ALOT of space on the main page for those of you wishing to advertise for Main Page space.

I would definitely take advantage of the BOGO pricing as well.... Right now, banner (468x60) on ALL pages is $18.00 month.... Buy one month, get one month free....

The button (125x125) on ALL pages is $15.00 month... Buy one get one free... These prices are lower than what is in since the roll out of the new site will happen before the BOGO end date of July 31st, 2008.

I was trying to re-build mykids website but kept running into problem after problem.... Site builders just don't seem to allow alot of the coding that I was working with. And Rachel came to my rescue.

Thank You Rachel...

Sunday, July 13, 2008

No Job, Now What?

Ok, I have taken some time and really thought about if I wanted to write about this or not. And I'm going to.

I know other co-workers, as well as the boss have been to my blog. And that's ok. Everyone was there and seen what happened and I have the truth.

As of this past Friday, I have no job. I've been with this company almost 4 years. As much as I would love to tell the stories of all the terrible things that go on... I will..... LOL. And you thought I was going to say I won't. Here is what happened to my being asked to leave.

First know this....My boss and I have butt-heads from day one. I was NOT even going back for a second day. But I did. Taking the "walk of shame" down the hall into the conference room was a record setter when I started. I was yanked into the office more than anyone. And I know alot of it has to do with personality conflicts. And calling out the lies that one supervisor would tell me and then deny it in front of the other supervisor.

I am a very out-spoken person. I say how it is. I don't hold back. And if I think I'm right, I will stand by it until I am PROVEN wrong. My boss appears to be that way as well. However, I can't tell you how many times she has asked me to go outside with her and then PUMP me for info as to why someone is acting the way they are.... Why this person is doing this or why this person is doing that.....I have told her that she does not have the supervising skills that she should. And that she does need to handle each person differently. Using a scare tactic on one person may work but for me, that won't work. I respond to honesty. And she understood that. When she holds meetings and tells us to "sit down, shut the hell up and work". Perfect timing for her to say that when the BIG boss comes into the meeting....That comment made so many people furious.... Including me... Considering I had nothing to do with her saying that. So this had the opposite effect.... Everyone slowed-down. That's something I always told her was that the results she wants from everyone is not what she will get when she acts unprofessional, mean, nasty, hateful.....

So all the comments she made about my being a great worker, how my work gets verified the first time... All of that went right out the window on Friday. Or maybe I should say Wednesday. Because this all did start on Wednesday.

She gave me a new account to work. And after working it, it was not difficult or anything like that. But I did have some questions a couple different times. And every time I went to her, she did not have the answer. So she went to get the answer from someone else. I went to a co-worker and asked to see her notes because I waned to make sure that the info the boss gave me would be the same as the other co-worker. I just wanted to compare. I could not believe that my boss was going to teach me a new account when she did not know about it.... And I said that out loud. My exact words were "Holy crap, and she's teaching me this when she does not know about it".

Know this..... This is what my boss is mad at....(that I made that comment) It has nothing to do with what happens on Friday. Well, I'm sure it does but this is what led to it.

So a couple different co-workers, as well as myself heard our boss telling other co-workers that sit by her what happened with my asking for notes and making that comment..... (see, we have a good side that sits by her and then the bad side that is where we sit) She was gossiping among other co-workers... Nothing new, really....But we (on the other side) heard her.... So I said out loud "Now that's being professional, discussing gossip among other co-workers". So after I go back and sit down she comes up to me and asks if I want to know what she knows about the account.... And I said " Well, if you want this correct you'll tell me".

I finished my day and left..... I decided to take Thursday off since I was not feeling well. Now I was not deathly sick but I needed to take some time off.... And my boss knew that I was wanting to take a day off for me soon since the last day I took off for "fun" was April of 2007 and that's when I took my kids to the IX Center.

So Friday came and I went right to work... About 11:00 a.m. my boss came up to me with a different supervisor and asked me to follow them into the conference room (the walk of shame)... I said " Sure, just let me grab someone" and my boss replied "That's not in the rules, you know you can't". I said "If you can have a witness, then so can I". She said "You don't make the rules". I said I would settle for the BIG BOSS then and I believe she went to get her but then my boss came back and asked if I was refusing to come and I said "No, as long as I can bring someone". She said I can't and I said then I'm not going. "I'm not walking into the lions den" is the last thing I said. I sat there and continued to work and they turned around and walked past me....

Now I can tell this was different.....Anytime over the last couple years that she wanted to talk with me, we would go outside and have a cigarette (yes, I smoke) together.... But this time she was wanting to drag me in the conference room with another supervisor. I have not had that happen in years...And we all know what happens in there. And I was not about to NOT have a witness for myself.

So she came by a few minutes later with the other supervisor (who is just as much of a psycho as ours). She asked me to clean up my area, shut down and leave..... And I did. And I did it graciously. Not one tear.... Not one mean word... Nothing.....As a matter of fact, I started to leave and realized that I still had my ID badge and brought it back.

First of all, this company does try to push people out, and has a high turn around rate. If you quit, no unemployment. And for Jim, Valerie, Jamie and there were a couple more, they were fired, (paid into unemployment) and the company fought it and those people were unable to receive unemployment.

I have been with this company almost 4 years. I was a full time employee about the first year... Until child support sent a letter to my work asking them to take out full medical insurance on my daughter since the father did not have insurance on her.... That was going to cost me $541.00 a month. I told them if they did that, I would have to quit. They told me they did not want to lose me and that they would work with me by cutting me back to part time because they don't offer insurance to part time employees. So I go part time, lose vacation, Holiday, personal, 401k... I gave it all up.

So here I am.... Looking at starting all over again somewhere else....And I'm not getting any younger. The economy just sucks right now. And I know they will fight unemployment. So, I need to find something fast..... I am trying to look at this as a blessing in disguise.... I have been thinking of the gas money I spend each week ($80.00) to go to a part time job and put up with the crap like I have for sooo long. I know it was because of the flexibility that kept me there this long. I'm even willing to take a pay cut to find something closer to home and save the gas money.

I believe in the power of prayer... And I am asking for everyone to say a little prayer for me and my family during this time. Believe it or not, I am not worried. I have faith. And I have time to work on my home-business.

Friday, July 11, 2008

Lisa Explains It All

I want to send a shout out to "Lisa Explains It All". This site is great for the newbie.
With this tutorial, kids and beginners learn step by step how to make their own Web page and publish it on the WWW. For the more advanced, .htaccess files, installing perl scripts and much more is covered.

If you get the time to check it out, I think you will be happy you did.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Scams With PayPal?

Today I thought I would share an email I received. It was supposed to be from Pay Pal. However, I can tell that this is NOT legit.

Things like this burn me up. So many of us that work from home use pay pal. And so many of us are new to using the pay pal service. And if you are new, then it's going to be hard for you to tell the difference between a REAL email and fake.

First of all....if you look at the To: section at the very top of the page, it does not even have my email address. You need an email address to use pay pal. So pay pal would have my email address. It just says To: undisclosed recipients. That tells me that this email went out by spam..... Being sent to hundreds of people.

Another thing to look for would be the Dear Customer Pay Pal section. Pay Pal would have my name since you need to submit your name in order to open up a paypal account.

Now of course I should have said this part first, but I wanted to add some content to my blog... LOL. Pay Pal will NEVER send you an email. You can even call them and they will tell you the same. That's what they told me when I received one of these along time ago. And I chose to call them.

But look at how legit it looks. It has the Pay Pal logo at the top of the page..... And the little button that you are supposed to click on, this is where you would enter personal info for the person on the other end of this email. This is not good. They even try to legitimize this email by having the Protect Your Account Section off to the right hand side. Well of course they are not going to ask for a password. MOST people know NOT to do that. It's all in the click of that button that's on this page. So don't click it. LOL

On another note, my website is coming along. In just a few more days I should be ready to introduce the new mykidsmywhy website. With the past holiday, I took some time off of everything and just enjoyed my kids, family and friends. So, now it's back to work.